Prayer For Betrayal Of A Husband
Dear Father in heaven,
I still cannot believe it. I?ve heard of other people whose spouses were unfaithful, but I never thought it would strike home. I did not anticipate that my spouse would hurt me in such a painful way, a pain that penetrates into my inner being. I do not know if I am angry, devastated, guilty of failure, foolish or a victim. Perhaps the combination of feelings I am experiencing cannot be described by mere words.
Lord, You are going to need to help me to process the upheaval taking place in my heart. There is so much to sort out. Will I ever be able to forgive my spouse? If so, will I ever be able to trust my life?s partner again? How long will it take for me to feel whole and human again? What can I do with the brokenness that drains me or the anger that rages within me?
I want a guarantee that this will never happen again. I want things fixed. But an external solution cannot resolve the tsunami that?s swept over my soul. It can?t be fixed today and healed tomorrow. Like a festering deep wound, the dangers of infection and setbacks are all too real.
Although I might like to think otherwise, I am not a robot who works on logic alone. I have feelings and am fully human. And sometimes it is not so nice to be human. I can?t just ?get over it,? though I would love to do so. Instead, I must struggle through this with you.
Not only do I have to struggle with issues of forgiveness, trust, and regaining my own sense of self respect, so does my straying spouse. I want our marriage to be healed, but yet I am afraid my anger and the distance I feel will drive my partner further away from me. But I must get over that fear, Lord. If we are to get better, we both must take responsibility for ourselves. Betrayal has consequences, not because I want them, but because I am human. It is going to take me time, lots of time. Help me and my spouse to accept that, but also to believe that You are a God of grace and healing.
Lord, countless thousands, even millions have felt what I feel. You have restored so many marriages. People do not usually advertise it, but I know the statistics. So, Lord, if I am not willing to forgive now, please make me willing to be made willing. I know trust builds over time, and you do not expect me to immediately trust the repentant, but you do expect me to begin the forgiveness process with at least expressing a willingness to forgive.
I pray, Lord, that, during this fragile time, you would help my spouse and I to rebuild together. Help us to develop a healthier and closer marriage than we had. Help us develop skills that will result in us experiencing a satisfying marriage in the future. Lead us to counselors and friends who will nurture us in the right direction. Lord, with Your help and with time, help us not only see the damage healed, but our marriage and level of closeness deepened.
I pray in the Name of our Savior, Jesus Christ, Amen.
Please pray for us. We had money issues and I wasn't earning and trying to keep the home going. I was juggling credit cards to do that. In the end, I couldn't keep up payments on them. I finally paid half and then stopped paying.
This has affected our credit score for a mortgage. I never told my husband because I was ashamed and fed up with trying so hard and not being able to keep up. Our marriage has been challenging at times primarily because my husband has not been saved I believe. With the help of God I've overcome emotional abuse, physical abuse and infidelity and felt that we were finally ok after 15+years. Since the mortgage issue, my husband feels betrayed and has said that what I've done is worse than his infidelity.
I am traumatised by the pain I have caused; importantly I recognise how I deviated from the blueprint for my life by not trusting God to provide as I have always done. I want to seek God's forgiveness through prayer, pray from my husband's salvation he has a lot of anger and grudges he carries which are major obstacles for his spiritual growth I think he probably feels condemned all the time and feels that life is a continuous battle to be fought and won and finally pray for my marriage.
I love my husband and feel that we are losing out on the freedom of and comm union with Christ which will bring peace and love in our home.
"Dear God, thank you for always being faithful to me. I can always count on you to love me completely and unconditionally. Thank you for being perfectly trustworthy. I can always rely on you to do what's best for me and help me with whatever I need. Please help me remember that you are here for me even when others betray me.
You know all of the painful thoughts and feelings I'm dealing with after being betrayed by [mention your specific situation here]. I can't believe this happened to me. It hurts so much to have someone I thought I could trust do this to me. God, I need a miracle to find peace after what I've been through. Please give me that peace so I can think about the betrayal from your perspective and control my emotions rather than having them control me.
My loving Father in heaven, I know you agree that betrayal is wrong and are just as upset as I am about what has happened to me. But I also know that you want me to forgive [name the person who betrayed you]. Honestly, I don't want to forgive, but I don't want to hurt myself more by holding onto bitterness or pursuing revenge. Empower me to forgive by letting go of the offense and trusting you to bring justice to the situation in the right ways and at the right times. Please free me from the burden of holding onto a grudge and help me move on with my life well.
God, I confess that this betrayal has damaged my confidence. I feel insecure and blame myself for mistakes I made in the relationship before I was betrayed. I wonder what I could have done differently to prevent this betrayal from happening. Please steer me away from wasting my time and energy living in the past, and help me focus now on how I can best move into a better future. Remind me of how valuable I am as a person, and let me sense your love for me in tangible ways, such as an encouraging message from a guardian angel that you have assigned to care for me.
As I move forward with the other relationships in my life, help me not to punish those who have goodwill toward me by assuming that they will betray me like [your spouse, your friend, etc.] did. Help me to trust the people I know who are treating me well. After I've worked through the forgiveness process with [the person who betrayed you], help me to rebuild trust in our relationship gradually over time, if he or she is willing to change and reconcile with me.
Show me people who can support me as I recover from this betrayal, such as a counselor, a clergy person, friends, and family members who are caring and trustworthy. Thank you for them; please bless them for their help.
My faithful God, I love you and look forward to enjoying your true love every day of my life. Amen."
Father,
Bless me with the wonderful power of forgiveness, give me the grace to unconditionally forgive those who have done me wrong. Give me the strength to let go of all ill-will, the strength to forgive myself of my own failings and sins, knowing that you have already forgiven me. Free me of all anger, bitterness, hate and unforgiveness. I lift this person up to You, God, so that they may be able to forgive themselves for their betrayal of me as I work to forgive them.
Amen
God,
Please help me see that revenge will only bring more hurt and anger, and will not make me feel closer to You. God please remind me that You are aware of my pain, and that You have not left my side. I know that You do not want me to hold evil in my heart, and instead I should trust that You will find justice for my hurt. Thank you Lord for listening to my prayers and taking away this pain!
Amen
Father,
Help us today to get over the memories and pain involved with having been betrayed by someone we loved and we thought loved us. Thank you for keeping us in perfect peace, regardless of circumstances beyond our control. We turn the hurt and pain over to you, cleanse our hearts and renew our spirits.
In Your Name, the Name above all names we pray. Amen and Amen.
Lord,
As I move forward with other relationships in my life, help me not to punish those who have goodwill toward me by assuming that they will betray me like people in the past have done. Help me to trust the people I know who are treating me well. If it is Your will, please help me to rebuild trust in the relationship of the one who hurt me, if they choose to reconcile with me. It will be a difficult process, but with Your grace I will work hard to create a foundation of trust in relationships.
Amen.
Lord,
As I move forward with other relationships in my life, help me not to punish those who have goodwill toward me by assuming that they will betray me like people in the past have done. Help me to trust the people I know who are treating me well. If it is Your will, please help me to rebuild trust in the relationship of the one who hurt me, if they choose to reconcile with me. It will be a difficult process, but with Your grace I will work hard to create a foundation of trust in relationships.
Amen.