Prayer For Sexless Marriage
Thank you for my husband! Thank you for blessing me with a life partner and a helpmate. And for my husband's ability to bring me joy and amplify my flaws so that I can always grow and be a better person.
Today I bring you my physical relationship with my husband. I pray that you help me with my focus, my arousal, and our relationship.
Jesus, please help me to be less distracted during sex. Please help me to put away thoughts of laundry, and work and to do lists. And remind me to focus on my husband and his physical needs. Please help me to feel the magic of his touch and the power of our connections.
Heavenly Father, please put a fire in me for his kiss, his strength, and his closeness to me.
Father bless me with the memories of the the connections we had in our youth, and build a fire in my soul for our time together. Father please help me to long for him and for an intimate relationship with him. Please create rest during this time of passion and allow his touch to energize my body for the next day.
Your word says you will do exceedingly and abundantly what we can ask or think, so in the mighty name of Jesus! Bless this time with me and my husband! I pray with an expectant heart!
Lord, I ask forgiveness for sinning against you and against my own body. In the name of Jesus, I sever and renounce the bonds I created with _____. I release my heart tie with this person physically, emotionally, and spiritually. I choose by faith to forgive _______ for their violation against me. Please forgive me of my violation against _______. Please remove the negative emotional baggage I've been carrying around with me. Restore to me a virgin heartas though I'd never been with this person, and heal me completely of the damage this sin has caused me and my marriage. Thank you for your forgiveness. I accept it fully. Amen.
We know that You desire spouses to be one flesh that no one should separate, even a spouse within the marriage (Matthew 19:4-6). But some spouses have stepped away from sexual intimacy, leaving their mate feeling sad, frustrated, and lonely.
Your Word that You are close to the brokenhearted and save those crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). So many in sexless marriages are brokenhearted and crushed in spirit; Lord, be near to them now. Make Your presence known in the midst of their hardship.
Although understanding is elusive, we affirm that You are present and will walk with us in the worst of circumstances (Isaiah 43:1-2). Indeed, Your Son and our Lord Jesus Christ experienced the deepest of sorrows, abandoned by others and suffering on a cross, and You brought Him through. When it seemed hopeless, You resurrected our Savior. We pray for that same power of resurrection to bring a reawakening of sexual intimacy in marriages where it's been lacking (Ephesians 1:19-20).
Surround these couples with believers who can speak into their situation, who can provide wisdom for pursuing reconciliation. Give Your Church the yearning and the resources to speak not with timidity but with power and love in favor of Your design for sex in marriage for regular, mutually satisfying physical intimacy (2 Timothy 1:7). Help those of us who can minister to sexless marriages to mourn with those who mourn (Romans 12:15) and offer godly wisdom (Colossians 3:16).
We pray for those called to minister and teach on marriage and sexuality, for we are imperfect and stumble in our words (James 3:1-2). Help Your message come through, despite the flaws of Your messengers. Humble us to understand that we don't have the answers so much as You are the answer. May all our solutions ultimately point to You.
Open the eyes and the ears, the heart and the mind of the refusing spouse (Isaiah 32:3), so they truly see the emotional pain of their spouse and be convicted of the significance of sexual intimacy in their marriage. Guide them to see that sex isn't just for their spouse, but for their own heart and soul. Help them to see the beauty of being fully known and valued in the marriage bed (Song of Songs 2:3-5).
Give the refused spouse compassion for their spouse and what they've been missing out on as well. Give them the right words to express their emotional pain and to break through the emotional barriers. Help them to be peacemakers as they pursue sexual intimacy for their marriage (Matthew 5:9). Refresh them in their weariness (Jeremiah 31:25).
Lord, above all give us love for one another. Help us in our marriages and in our churches to bear one another's burdens (Galatians 6:2). And give us Your ultimate rest in Christ Jesus (Matthew 11:28-29). Let Your love show through us (1 John 4:11-12).
In the name of Your Son and through the Holy Spirit, we pray.